You can't change the past, but you can learn valuable lessons from it. Tell yourself how great it is that you’ve learned something new and can change the way you do things in the future.
Say to yourself, 'I know I messed up that time, but I was doing my best at the moment. Everyone messes up sometimes. It's okay, and I'll try to do things differently next time.'
Create a daily practice of authenticity. This can mean doing something that you enjoy by yourself or reciting an important affirmation to yourself.
Practice being yourself and acting in a way that feels genuine, without worrying what people will think. You can make a practice of doing one thing each day when you feel that you’re being true to how you feel in the moment.
You can develop personal affirmations to help you accept yourself. You can say something like, 'I am a valuable, lovable person the way that I am,' or, 'I accept and love all aspects of myself even as I work to grow and change.'
Practice mindfulness. Mindfulness refers to trying to stay present wherever you are, without getting lost in thoughts or feelings that take you out of the moment.
If you want to change or eliminate your attention-seeking behaviour, make a commitment to do so, and to take specific steps toward that goal.
Write down your commitment. You can put it on a calendar, marking the day you commit to starting working on it. Write down daily or weekly goals.
If you're an attention seeker, you probably try to spend lots of time with other people. Practice spending time by yourself, too.
When you're alone, do things that you enjoy. This will help being alone feel more fun and enticing.
Once you have a practice for making positive changes, take time to reflect and see how you're progressing. You can do this by writing in a journal.
Be gentle with yourself as you progress. Making big changes in yourself doesn't happen overnight.
Identifying why you're seeking attention can help you confront the root cause of your behaviours. For example, you may have a feeling of inadequacy, you may have trouble being alone, or you may feel like you aren't doing enough with your life. Confronting these issues will help you overcome your attention-seeking tendencies.
Q&A:
Q: I do the stupidest things and lie about things for attention. I don't know why. What can I do?
A: You may be doing this because you have low self-esteem and/or are covering up feelings of inadequacy. It's important that you learn how to accept yourself. Try to determine what is at the root of your feelings of inadequacy so that you can work through them.
Q: I feel like everything I do is just for attention. What do I do?
A: When people seek attention, it's often motivated by a desire to please people, as well as feelings of being inadequate. You can overcome this by identifying your own feelings and learning to be yourself. Be true to who you are, and focus on your own wants and needs.
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